Since I’m always looking to understand the behavior of the people around me, and after encountering and recuperating from so many incidents caused by ego I’ve decided to pay attention to that little combination of 3 letters that allegedly forms a word … When looking for its definition, I found something that really got my attention … “The part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity”… my personal definition goes more like this: ego is everyone’s self perception of themselves; A perception that is not ruled nor determined by anyone else but the individual, a form of personality dictatorship.
This definition has served its purpose for years, but somehow has kept me from any further understanding of people’s actions and how they affect me.
But this dictionary-found definition brings a little light to this black-hole where other’s ego’s can send us. Sometimes, helps to explain that Perhaps ego could be seen as an emotional shield, a barrier from revealing real feelings and emotions. This opens the door to think that those who suffer of severe ego do have feelings, but they have this unconscious part of their mind stopping them from expressing emotions.
This definition has served its purpose for years, but somehow has kept me from any further understanding of people’s actions and how they affect me.
But this dictionary-found definition brings a little light to this black-hole where other’s ego’s can send us. Sometimes, helps to explain that Perhaps ego could be seen as an emotional shield, a barrier from revealing real feelings and emotions. This opens the door to think that those who suffer of severe ego do have feelings, but they have this unconscious part of their mind stopping them from expressing emotions.
Feelings like fear perhaps? Ego could be a response to fear, it could be a camouflage to something deeper and weaker as fear... fear to feel something as special for others than what is felt for themselves?
Seeing it that way helps me to cope with disappointment, anger and frustration from past encounters with other’s ego, it helps me to believe that all damage was done unconsciously… never intended.
I’ve come to the conclusion that for some crazy astrological reason I keep surrounding myself with egotistic people, some of them have the harmless ego, the one that I kinda respect and learn from (they are pretty much full of themselves and delusionally in love with everything about the way they look, act and everything else), some others have the hurtful one, the one that would blind them from important reality, from respect to other’s emotions and points of view; an ego that is stronger than any other possible feeling but that instead fills them with anger and unfounded pride .. and pushes their “loved” ones away.
That ego has hurt me so many times, I ran out of fingers to count on, so many tears I’ve shed because of that hurtful ego… so many, that learning to differentiate the “harmless ego” from the “destructive ego” early in a new relationship is a must.
Ego = arrogance, confidence or fear?
I’ve come to the conclusion that for some crazy astrological reason I keep surrounding myself with egotistic people, some of them have the harmless ego, the one that I kinda respect and learn from (they are pretty much full of themselves and delusionally in love with everything about the way they look, act and everything else), some others have the hurtful one, the one that would blind them from important reality, from respect to other’s emotions and points of view; an ego that is stronger than any other possible feeling but that instead fills them with anger and unfounded pride .. and pushes their “loved” ones away.
That ego has hurt me so many times, I ran out of fingers to count on, so many tears I’ve shed because of that hurtful ego… so many, that learning to differentiate the “harmless ego” from the “destructive ego” early in a new relationship is a must.
Ego = arrogance, confidence or fear?
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