April 20, 2011

Emotional Farsightedness? ...


The simple definition of this eye condition known as farsightedness is: greater difficulty seeing near objects than distant objects.
I believe most men suffer from emotional farsightedness, somehow they can’t see what they have in front of them until this is far away; once in a relationship, they tend to take for granted what is near, the person who loves them, takes care of them and constantly shows how important they are, they ignore it is as if they couldn’t focus on it.
Most likely men start appreciating this person once she is emotionally disconnected from them, once she is far and distant; is then when they seem to appreciate what they once had near by.
She is now gone and is no longer his ... her feelings, emotions and reactions no longer belong to him, her smiles and jokes perhaps belong to someone else, someone who may have 20/20 vision… she has moved on is finally happy and healed from all the heartbreak, is then when men usually re-appear, and when us girls turn into bitches for only reacting to what is normal … NOT wanting them near by anymore!
Meanwhile I believe us girls suffer from another condition (not medically named yet), a condition where we seem to have a distorted version of our near-by objects (loved ones); we tend to ignore the “clear” vision of them and instead see them as almost-perfect prospects of that prince charming we all dream about. We fall for that over-sized version of the truth and excuse every possible flaw (actually we even find their flaws attractive and lovable) we tend to put them on pedestals and constantly shower them with attention, caring and loving gestures… (As every man reading this is probably screaming BITCH!) … It’s a terrible condition since even so it allows us to develop amazing feelings; it also keeps us away from reality, not to mention that awakening from this mirage is brutal and hurtful.
Is this the reason why us women are the ones designed to encounter motherhood? After-all, every mother tends to see their child as great and incapable of intentionally hurting anyone, a mother and only a mother would forgive anything from their kids, it would love them as they are and would give the best of her to them regardless … maybe is the way we are build what makes this unconditional love possible and maybe that’s also the reason of our never-ending caring and loving of men (or significant other ... love my lesbian friends!) in general no matter how farsighted they can be .. I guess a realistic 20/20 is just not possible for human kind, but as long as we can be aware of our differences, there is hope for true love ;) 



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